If you wake up in the morning and feel like you’re not good enough— You can do something about it!
Even if you feel like you’ve lost control over everything in your life. If you feel like you’ve been running on a hamster wheel for 20-30-40 or more years. If you’ve got that you’re not good enough feeling, I understand. I’m going to talk about the things that can keep you stuck first— Then talk about the things to get you unstuck.
Here are some things you think when you have these low-down or broken-hearted feelings about yourself. These thoughts aren’t your fault. They’ve been programmed into your brain since you were a little girl. Please don’t beat yourself up because these thoughts come up in your head.
These are the thoughts that keep you stuck in feeling like you’re not good enough
- I am not good enough.
- Who could ever love someone like me?
- Why am I not good enough for anyone?
- No man would ever want me.
- I’m so stupid.
- There are no good men out there.
- Deserving of love? Me? Ha! That’s a big fat joke, like my thighs.
- I’ll never find love.
Icky thoughts like these can wreck your self-esteem and ruin any chances of having a fulfilling love life. When you think thoughts like these— Even if they’re not your own, it can bring about experiences so you have yet another chance to learn how to stop them.
The law of attraction even works for negative thoughts especially when you think you’re not good enough. What you think about you bring about, so the old saying goes.
So before you allow these thoughts to run your life for yet another day, put an end to the madness!
I want to put out a few simple steps that will help you love yourself instead of feeling like you’re not good enough
Tip #1 Eliminate the evil “Shoulds” from your vocabulary.
- I’m 47; I should have a husband by now.
- I should already have two children
- I’ve only got fifty bucks in the back, I should have more money.
- I should start exercising.
- I should have a place of my own.
- I should eat more veggies.
When you have a terrible case of the shoulds is when these not-so-good vibes can take over your mind, body, and soul.
Even though you have limiting beliefs and a severe case of the shoulds that no Xanax could ever cure— Just know that you ARE good enough
Tip #2 Tell yourself that you are good enough, all day and YOU will start to believe it
- You are good enough because you are you.
- Happiness if your birthright.
- There is a partner for every person out there who wants one— But you may have to kiss a few frogs to find him.
- You deserve love.
Your life and everyone else’s life too is a roller coaster of emotions, and it is part of the human condition. Disappointment, despair, trauma, and heart-crushing breakups are part of the circle of life, but it doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means that you are a multi-dimensional feeling woman.
Feeling your feels doesn’t make you a bad person.
Remember nothing lasts forever, and you can dust off your skinny jeans and get back out in the game.
You are good enough, no matter what your brain tells you sometimes or all the time
When you first get a puppy he might make some mistakes. He’s going to pee on the rug and chew up your shoes. But it doesn’t make him a bad puppy. Chewing and peeing is in his nature.
And so are feeling your feelings. But if you change your thoughts enough times from something negative to something more positive you will start to believe it. Just like when a puppy uses the potty he gets a treat and he feels good about himself.
When you notice yourself saying that you are not good enough give yourself a treat
Give yourself the treat for not beating yourself up for saying that negative thing again. Instead, shift your thoughts with affirmations talking nicely to yourself.
You just have to keep telling yourself that you are enough, even if you don’t believe it quite yet.
Even though you have a library of self-help books, meditate every day, do yoga and drink kale juice, not feeling good enough feelings will still come up
And that’s OK. You are human and being human hurts.
For instance, imagine having paper cuts all over your heart. That’s what being a person can be like, (I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about). We all have hurts, and they don’t go away in an instant.
We’ve all been there. And there isn’t an easy fix for low self-esteem. It is a process. Do the process.
Get into letting yourself heal from past hurts and the past things others and you have said to yourself. Like Louise Hay always said,” You are good enough!”
You have to do some soul searching— and probably lots and lots of crying. You can dig into the feelings, and realize they are not the best part of you. They are just the ugly little monster part of you— and this monster is NOT in charge. You are in charge.
You get to decide to choose to be happy and feel like you are lovable.
How to feel good about yourself with 3 more easy tips.
Tip #3— Have a daily mantra
Here are some simple mantras
- I want to be happy, and I will do whatever it takes to get to my good-feeling place because I am good enough.
- I am lovable.
- I am human, I love and accept my hurts.
- I am getting ready to share the love.
- I am loved.
- Divine love is inside of me.
- I get more beautiful every year inside and out.
Tip #4— Write your little heart out
To get started, take out your journal and start writing about all the shoulds like they have manifested.
Tap into what it will feel like when you will experience them on the physical level. And trust that there is pure goodness waiting for you.
Here is a practice exercise.
Tip #5— Imagine your perfect life as if
Imagine yourself three years from now having your deepest relationship desires manifested into reality. Just imagine it. Get detailed and pay attention to the little things as long as you can feel good while doing it. If you feel too much emotion, take a break, cry it out and get to a peaceful place before trying it again.
Here is a short example.
I love the way it feels when I wake up in the morning, and my boyfriend is already up making my favorite coffee for me. He knows exactly how I like it. It’s the little things like that, which make me love him more and more every day.
I feel so adored, cherished, and understood by my partner. Even when we disagree, I still feel heard by him, and he listens.
My life is a miracle, and I have feelings of deep appreciation every day for every single thing. Every breath I take, every hot bath I run at the end of a long work day and the soft pillow beneath my head every night. His strong arms around me make me feel sure, cared for and deeply loved.
Things are perfect enough for me. I feel at ease, happy and content, but I still want more. Wanting more joy is one of the most fun experiences of being a person. Therefore, I will always crave more fulfillment, more fun, and am excited about what my relationship will evolve into in the future.
You are getting to the place of feeling better, right?
I am creating my life as a masterpiece of my choosing. I can paint the happiness onto the canvas in my mind. It is mine to imagine, to feel and bring into reality. I can see it, feel it, smell it, taste it, and touch it.
I love the power that lies within me, and I am filled with divine love that guides my every day. That is power, and the ability is within me. I can create my life exactly as I want it, and I understand that divine timing plays its part in my life. I trust the unfolding, and I thoroughly and deeply love myself, and I know that I am good enough. I am open and ready for love.
Can I get a hell yeah to a perfect day? Put some examples of your perfect day in the comments below. I can’t wait to hear what you have to say!
In conclusion, if you need help getting in charge of the ugly little monster in your head contact me for a free love coaching consultation. I promise you that you will feel better after our conversation!