Have you ever had something going really well with a man and then… nothing? You could be married or in a long relationship but he went from burning with desire for you, calling you, texting you, and dating you to crickets chirping? There are lots of reasons why men push women away.
First you lured him in with your incredible online dating profile. Had some flirty texting, callling and more.
Then he became completely withdrawn and even totally disappeared like a ghost going through the windows in your mind? You had a GREAT first date, second and third date. How could he push you away when you things were going so well?
There are several reasons why men push women away
We’re going to go over just a couple here. To build a relationship you want You have to play on the same team— his team That’s what relationships are all about.
You don’t want to take jabs at each other and poke out each other’s eyes. You want to join hands and go skipping down the lane, together, right? So there are 2 big reasons why men push women away (OK there are more than 2 reasons why men push women away) . . .
Why Men Pull Away
As we start talking about why men pull away, take a step back and notice if you relate to any of these scenarios. In this article, I will explain to you, in length, the top two biggest reasons why men pull away.
Let’s get started, shall we?
You have become his opponent.
Guys want to feel like you’ve got their back. If they make a play, like suggesting a restaurant for the night… and you always shoot down his ideas.
When this happens you can just imagine yourself tackling him, and his self-esteem, down to the ground. Guys want to feel like they are doing something right!
He will get up (eventually), feeling beat-up by you with metaphorical mud on his face. And when he brushes himself off, he will not be racing to call you and ask you out to dinner again anytime soon, he can easily go find someone who likes him and his ideas.
Becoming a man’s opponent is the fastest way to get him to stop wanting to kiss you and disappear faster than you can say abracadabra.
You had a one night stand
Of course there are relationships that come out of a one-night stand. But it does make it harder to get the guy when it happens. If you give him the cookie too quickly, he’s already seen EVERYTHING you’ve got. So if this has already happened, don’t pretend you’re already in a relationship.
Just becuase you had sex does not mean you are automatically exclusive. Until he has romantic feelings for you it’s just sex. I don’t like to put it out there like that, but sometimes you have to. And other times it’s better NOT to put it all out there.
Instant gratification of great chemistry can make you feel sad about one-night stand sex the day after. The month after or even longer. However, here are things you can do to turn a one-night stand into a relationship.
Why do guys pull away before they commit?
If you question everything he says, chooses and does, then you are going to have some real problems.
You will become disconnected.
You still want to stand up for what you believe in, but the little moments are what really build good relationships.
Both of you want to feel seen and understood
If he really loves Japanese, and sushi is not your favorite, can’t you just eat a miso noodle-bowl for a change? You might actually end up liking it because it is around a good memory with both of you.
Learning to go with the flow and letting go of the reigns once in a while will do both of you wonders. Do you really want to always wear the pants and be the boss of everything? Lighten up and appreciate that he has preferences too.
Let your preferences be known
I’m not saying if you are a vegetarian and your new boyfriend suggests going to Bob’s Beef House for dinner every night, that you shouldn’t say something… He should get that the fact that to you, meat is gross. You love animals, and like healthy-clean-living. It’s your thing!
That would be extremely bad behavior on his part, and if your boyfriend tried to get you to become a meat-a-tarian, and you were totally against it.
This coule be a sign he’s pushing someone away in a relationship— and that someone is you
I would suggest getting out of that relationship yesterday because it sounds like it’s not going to get any better. If you want to attract more love with the right kind of guy, read this.
You have turned his friends against him.
Even worse than not being on his team is not being on his team… in front of his friends. That is a total deal breaker for men. Men want to look like men, not like fools, especially in front of their friends.
I was talking with a woman who said something about the love of her life (in front of him and his friends), and it did not go over well. It didn’t seem like a big deal to her. She thought she was being playful, and funny. And it was funny to her and his friends. But it was not funny to him. They had one of the biggest blowouts in their very loving-solid relationship.
What she said was in jest, but it felt really horrible to him, and he let her know it in a really angry way. What was said wouldn’t have been a big deal to someone who was just a friend, but when you are with a man and he really cares for you, he wants you to be on his team, and not make him the butt of the joke.
Men have deep feelings too (they’re often just not good at expressing it)
When she teased him in front of his friends, it led to feelings of disrespect which is really important to EVERY man. Still looking for Mr. Right?
If you have something to say to a man, the best thing is to say it in private, not in front of a group of people. Things are between you and him, not you, him and his friends. Your relationships are sacred, so treat it that way.
There’s not much more that will make a man feel emasculated then being made fun of in front of his buddies.
Especially if you all gang up on him. Just don’t do it. Instead, play with him and laugh with him, not at him. If you haven’t yet, please sign up for the EPIC Love Newsletter and get Dina’s free eBook, “How to Stop Pushing Men Away and Get the EPIC Love You Want,” and a downloadable heart-opening meditation!
You can learn how to attract a guy on the first date so he’ll want to stick around.
Pushing Someone Away In A Relationship
Often times, pushing someone away in a relationship is achieved through the simplest action. Know his sensitive topics and try to steer clear from them out of respect and love.
Signs Of Being Pushed Away
What are the signs of being pushed away by your significant other?
- Lack of affection
- Lack of communication
- Often find yourself alone
- Constant fighting and yelling
The signs of being pushed away are often obvious but we tend to turn a blind eye. Notice them and take action.
Why Guys Pull Away When They Like You
The chemistry is definitely there but he looks like he wants nothing more than to run away. Do you wonder why guys pull away when they like you?
He’s showing you that that he’s not looking for anything serious.
He’s too busy.
He’s not over his ex.
He’s not finacially stable.
He want to make sure you’re “the one” before he commits.
He’s got other women on the line.
He’s scared as hell of getting his heart broken again.
If he’s not the right guy for you, if you pay attention to his actions you will know it. If he calls, texts and makes dates— He’s into you!
Remember that a guy’s love timeline is differnt than yours. Men go from A to B to C. While on the flip side women go from A to Z. You’re not getting married, (yet!). Keep your eye on my blog to learn how to deal witha non-commital man!