Why don’t we feel good all of the time? Well, it’s mainly because of our big old brains.
Have you ever wondered how to get rid of bad thoughts and feel more positive and happy? I sure have! And it’s been part of my life’s mission!
How do you feel positive instantly?
That’s a question many women want to know. And there’s no magic bullet. But there are some things you can do to feel better more often than not.
If you feel crumby, you can’t keep doing the same things over and over and expect your life to change. You can learn how to feel like a Goddess when you empower yourself with positive feelings and emotions in your daily life.
So if you want to feel positive emotions, you’ve got to focus on more positive emotions and feelings!
If you feel negative too much, it doesn’t mean you’re crazy. I mean you need to retrain your brain.
Here are some examples of scenarios that can lead a person to not have positive feelings.
Let’s say In grade school a teacher made you put your nose in the corner. Because you were busy telling your best friend about your magical dream during quiet time.
This talk about the fairies in your mind ended up with you missing out on playing with your friends on tire swing during recess. This sucked in the moment. Your positive thoughts in turn got you in trouble.
And this made you feel BAD!
In turn, this made you think that your voice wasn’t important, and keeping quiet was more important than getting in trouble.
When you become aware of how your past affects your present… You can get the love of your life back…
It makes it easier for you to feel positive today.
Have you heard of Pavlov’s dog?
It was research from Ivan Pavlov—where he conditioned dogs to respond by salivating from a certain stimulus.
You were conditioned in a similar way to this researcher’s dog.
Here’s another story (OK, maybe this was my best friend’s story)…
When she was a teenager, there was a rumor going around that she was a bad kisser. Everyone and I mean everyone, knew about it.
The story of her and your “fish lips” was running rampant in homeroom, gym, at lunch.
She could hear people laughing in the back of the bus.
But there was one bully, in particular, that wouldn’t let it go.
He incessantly brought up a snarky kissy-face every time he saw her in the hall. Every time she saw a kissy face it made her feel awful.
It made her stomach do somersaults and brought back bad memories of crossing his path and getting teased.
Because she was conditioned by an external stimulus (aka the bully) she thought she was a bad kisser.
She felt like she would never get a date for any high school dance.
But luck would have it… she got over the negative thinking, learned to love herself, and found an amazing husband later in her life.
Now that kind of teasing behavior is stupid— and mean— and can affect you throughout their entire life— unless you DO something about it.
And the good news is that you CAN do something about negative thinking and learn how to feel positive again.
You can re-condition yourself.
The reason that bully said and did the mean things he did, was probably because of his classical conditioning.
When he went home at night his father didn’t have one nice thing to say. He was never good enough and his dad would hit him for being stupid on a regular basis.
This young man was conditioned to behave that way. He didn’t know how to act differently due to his classical conditioning. I’m friends with this guy, and he’s still got kind of a mean spirit…
Negative classical conditioning is a dangerous cycle that has to stop with you—me—us… for the emotional and spiritual evolution of the planet.
The Main Problems With Negative Conditioning
- Negative conditioning will keep you living in the state where you have always been, and somewhere else feels better. The road to feeling better is a place you don’t know how to get to because you never had a map. You’ve never even seen a road sign, except maybe once on Oprah.
- Negative conditioning can keep you clinging to the past, old ways of thinking, and the way “things used to be,” instead of the way things “could be.”
- Negative conditioning will keep you in the mindset of the “bad old days.”
When we do this we are settling into ourselves and our old habits. Settling into old ways of thinking. These habits we and others have trained ourselves into thinking have become beliefs and most of them are not true. Thoughts like, because I slept with him on the first date means it will never work out…
What can you do about it?
Learn how to feel positive energy and practice good feeling thoughts every single day.
So, what is the best way to get out of this negative conditioning that we have locked ourselves into?
Why are we wasting our time clinging, to the past and not feeling worthy? Because we didn’t know how to do anything different…
But today is different. You know more about how to feel better now.
You’re sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and lonely and hearing these nasty voices from the past and still inside your head. From all the times you have felt bad you know we want to feel better as quickly as we possibly can.
Beliefs are thoughts we have trained ourselves to think over and over and over.
So, it’s time to stop wasting your time with thoughts that came from other people and hold us back in love and life.
When you tell yourself something so many times, your body and your environment prove it to you. And it will make you feel more confident and attractive.
Life does a good job of proving your thoughts are real, so why would you believe anything else?
People who change their beliefs can inspire those around them.
Positive thinking starts with a little shift— in your mind
People who have done great things in their lives know there is something bigger and better than their negative thoughts.
Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream, and I know you do too.
Dr. King knew that the reality in his world could be shifted, no matter what other people said.
His thoughts were so powerful and positive it made a great change not only in his life but affected millions of people’s lives all over the world.
He shifted his thoughts, which became beliefs, which shifted the consciousness on a bigger scale and changed reality of those whose life he touched.
Mr. King is not the only one who has this ability to change reality. So do you.
You are a powerful creator with a spark of life inside of you that you can tap into if you so choose.
When you play out things in your head consciously, or unconsciously it becomes your life experience. Life will give you feedback constantly to prove to you that you are right. This is the law of attraction at play.
You can change your thoughts so the world around you begins to match them in a more brilliant and deliberate way.
The steps are simple but are critical to change your negative ways of thinking.
How to feel positive in 7 easy steps.
1. Be aware of your thoughts.
When you notice something that gives you the heebie-jeebies in your body or your mind, take a mental note.
2. Don’t beat yourself if you think a thought your thinking that isn’t serving you, because it really is.
The nasty thought that comes up serves a purpose. When you are aware that this kind of thinking can give you clarity because the uncomfortable feelings are a good push to get you to do something about it.
3. Do something to feel better.
Focus on your breath and appreciate that you’ve got that going on.
4. Stick your head in the sand if you have to.
Listen to your favorite song, drink some tea or get grounded with a tree pose and get in touch with your body. Take a nap if you have to. A nap is the perfect reset button in your brain.
5. Write down positive thoughts.
Get yourself busy with some handwritten gratitude.
6. Say them to yourself inside your head and out loud.
When you are feeling good say them, sing them, and put them on Twitter. The butterfly effect works in social media if it comes from a heart-centered authentic place. Your tiny message could put a smile on someone’s face when they really needed it.
7. Stick to the program.
Habits become beliefs and your beliefs become your reality.
It’s time to stop the negative conditioning and begin the new positive conditioning and you WILL have positive thoughts more of the time.
Positive conditioning is a new practice to teach you the way to live the life of your dreams.
It all starts with changing one thought.
Here’s a question I want you to ask…
Which thought could you change today that isn’t serving your highest good?