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How To Get Over Depression After A Breakup

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Can a breakup cause depression?

You bet it can.

And even if you are the one who is breaking up with someone else it can still be hard on you physically and emotionally.

A breakup can make you feel like a different person and bring up all kinds of insecurities and terrible thoughts about yourself.

There are people out there who can brush off a breakup and move on quickly; then there are other people who are devastated because of the loss of their boyfriend or husband.

Often a breakup can lead to depression, but not always. So yes a breakup can cause depression. Understanding the symptoms of depression is a good start to help you get through this tough time.

There are varying degrees of depression on a sliding scale from barely there to utterly mortifying.
Feeling grief and sadness is normal after a breakup and breaking up doesn't mean you will have depression.

Knowing the difference between depression and "regular" breakup sadness is a good thing to understand. Both hurt a lot, but breakup sadness is easier to get over.

What are normal break up symptoms?

  • Feeling sad
  • Not being able to sleep
  • Ignoring your hobbies
  • Not connecting with friends and family
  • Crying
  • Sadness
  • Anger
  • Feelings of frustration

None of these feelings are a walk in the park, but they are typical symptoms for a person after a breakup. But depression is a whole different story, and I know because I was depressed for years and I have done extensive research on the subject because of it.

Depression after a breakup isn't uncommon, and it will take time to adjust to being single. But because you are sad does not mean you are depressed. Feeling sad it completely normal. It is important to know the difference.

According to WebMD if you go to a doctor for a diagnosis or help, a doctor will look for symptoms.

What are symptoms of depression after breakup?

  • Sadness almost all day every day
  • Lack of joy that used to be there
  • 5% (or more) weight change, gaining or losing
  • Sleeping too much, or having insomnia
  • Feeling worn down or restless
  • Exhaustion most days
  • Hopelessness, extreme guilt or feeling unworthy
  • Concentration problems
  • Thoughts of suicide or death

If you are having suicidal thoughts help is a phone call away. Please contact National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


After a breakup, you may become depressed, but some people are at a higher risk. If you have ever been diagnosed with depression or have had a different disorder concerning your mood, or another significant life change such as hormonal changes, or losing a job, this can play a role.


What happens if I stay depressed?

If you think you are depressed, I recommend seeing a professional doctor for a checkup, do healing work, therapy, coaching and lots of self-care.

Depression can cause

  • Issues with work, (not wanting to do it or having trouble focusing on it)
  • Problems in school
  • Issues with your home life
  • Suicidal thoughts

If you have these thoughts about suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Line at 800-273-8255

Often people numb the pain of depression with the use of drugs or alcohol because they think it will help, but it only masks the problem, and it doesn't solve it.

A few drinks might make you forget about the way you feel for a while, but to feel better for real, you may need to seek help outside of yourself with a professional.

Depression can cause physical ailments such as

What can I do about my depression after a break up?


You can talk to your doctor about medical treatments for depression because that is not my expertise and I am not a doctor, I am just the messenger.

There are several natural ways of coping with depression after divorce that you might already know, but you don't feel like doing them.

When you are depressed after a breakup take it one step at a time. And remind yourself you have to start somewhere and this somewhere is where you are right now. And that is the only place to start.

One thing I know for sure is lying in bed for four months won't make depression go away but this following list can help make it easier to deal with.

5 Ways To Get Over Depression After A Break Up

  • 1

    Being active helps with depression

Read a fiction book, clean out your kitchen drawer or help a friend plant some flowers. Do some yoga (and make sure you have the right gear first), listen to upbeat music and let yourself move to the beat. Learn a new language or read more about self-love on my blog!

Stretch and release some of your tension.

  • 2

    Sleeping 8 hours helps with depression.

8 Hours is the average amount of time most people need, some need more, and other people need less. Sleep what your body is asking for and tap a delicious nap in the afternoon if you can.

This essential oil can also help you have a restful sleep.

A little siesta is good for the brokenhearted soul. A nap can help you forget about your depression for a while, and you can give your mind a break.

2 or 3 pm is usually the time of day when people have a sleepy period, and this is entirely natural. You have probably already been up for a while and you feel like you could sleep on your desk. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about in the afternoon snooze department.

And it is entirely reasonable for your body to want to crash out for a few minutes. A power nap can do the body good if you have the luxury to take one.

Get a little shut-eye once in a while.

Lona Sandon RD MEd said

"There seems to be a natural rhythm or set clock in our bodies so many people tend to feel a little sleepy around 2 or 3 in the afternoon."

  • 3

    Exercise helps with depression.

I know, I know, you might not feel like waling or going to the gym, but do it anyway. I had just gotten back from the gym to work on this article, and I felt like I was floating on a cloud after a few miles on the treadmill.

I didn't want to go, but I went and did it anyway and got to see a rerun of one of my favorite shows. So I stayed on it for a full hour so I could see the end, and my body appreciated the adrenaline boost. It felt great.

A little sweat is good for you. You don't have to go from couch potato to Marathon runner in an instant. Gradually get into the habit of doing a little exercise every day. Try some low impact yoga!

exercise cures depression

I you want to feel good fast, exercise will help!

It takes about 21 days to form a habit and developing healthy habits is one way to help you kick depression's butt!

  • 4

    Natural and herbal supplements help with depression.

I am no doctor, but taking some supplements are supported by doctors and healers around the globe.

S-adenosylmethionine or SAMe, is supposed to be good for depression, and this one brand had the best reviews, but I haven't tried it personally.

And Omega 3-fatty acids found in fish oil are spectacular. This is the brand I LOVE, it's good for your brain and tastes like Fruit Loops! I took it every day when I was pregnant, and my son's brain works like a champ. It did his brain right, I am sure.

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I take St. John's Wort every day and it was recommended to me by my chiropractor. It keeps me feeling level and amaze-balls!

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  • 5

    Essential oils can help with depression

According to Dr. Axe there have been clinical trials that proved to help with depression. When you put oils in a diffuser these oils go straight to your brain, trigger your emotions and serve as a trigger for your good-feelings.

At the Review of Clinical and Functional Neuroscience, says that the limbic system surveys the senses and registers pain, pleasure, safety or danger.

Smells can trigger emotions. You get that right? You might smell baking bread and it reminds you of your grandmother, or you can smell your exes cologne and get triggered negatively.

Smells trigger memories and emotions (good and bad), so you can begin by creating new positive memories with some smells that are good for your depression and will help you create positive feelings right now. So bring on the good smells and the good vibes!

You can also wear essential oils and get wonderful benefits from this aromatouch kit. Passion is my favorite essential oil blend.

Click the link to see a really cool diffuser!

Have a cuppa Earl Grey tea in the morning or put few drops of Bergamot oil in your favorite diffuser.

Click the photo to see a blend you will love!

Bergamot is also an antidepressant essential oil

Bergamot is known as a depressant because it is stimulating. It can improve blood circulation, and bring on feelings of joy. No wonder I love Earl Grey tea, it's one of my favorites. And the heat can make you feel nice and cozy.

Stand-alone essential bergamot oil is excellent and is also a fantastic friend to combine with...


Essential Lavender oil helps with depression

There was a study showing that lavender was a mood stabilizer and a sedative.

You can also put in in your bath, and use is with fractionated coconut oil for massage.

Lavender has was used in Medieval times as a source of medicine, and perfume and crafting.

And so does Chamomile essential oil or chamomile tea.


Get some lavender oil to help with depression, and as a bonus better rest! There was another study showing lavender to help with PTSD or post-traumatic-stress disorder. And after a breakup, I call it PTRD or Post Traumatic Relationship Disorder, I know that one all too well, and maybe that is why you are here. And at the University of Maryland Medical Center It showed lavender helped with anxiety, fatigue, and depression. So put a diffuser bedside to help you get plenty of sleep. Enough sleep is critical when you are healing your heart.

ylang ylang for depression

It's not only beautiful, it can help you relax.

Ylang Ylang depression helper!

Ylang Ylang Is known from research to decrease blood pressure, increase feelings of calm and more profound relaxation. This study supports that essential oils are helpful to relieve stress in people and this is good news!


Getting Over Depression with support from your friends and others

Having a good support network of friends and family will help you get through depression. Get out there and be social, it will do you good. Have luncheon, meet for coffee, (decaf if you are feeling antsy!), or go for an evening walk with an old or new friend.

Anxiety and Depression Association of America

There are divorce support groups.

These are only a couple of areas where you can seek support. There are many other support groups online and in your area.

Be brave even if you feel scared to ask for help. It's good to get support especially when you are depressed after a breakup.

how to get over depression after a break up

Learning how to heal your heart will help you get over depression

I've had symptoms of depression since my divorce, how will I be diagnosed as having depression?

With a doctor's diagnosis, you need to have five symptoms that I listed before for at least 14 days.

Depression can go for much longer if undiagnosed. If you are not doing anything about your depression, it can lead to interfering with work, your friends, and it can be so tricky that you can't even get out of bed.

I was in my bed for months and I never want to go back to feeling like that again.

And when I began showing people how to heal your heart, I knew in my heart that if I could help one person not feel as bad as I had felt, then all of the work that I put in would be worth it.

What is it like to heal depression after a breakup?

does depression ever go away

Getting over depression feels like this!!!!

Well, it might be slow, but it is worth it. Baby steps will get you to a better feeling place.

You can get over the pain you feel in your heart and the record player that goes on in your mind.

Ignoring feelings of sadness and depression can work for the severely traumatized, but depression has many factors, and different methods work for different people.

Self-love is critical for depression after heartbreak, and I love affirmations to get through hard times.

Self-loathing thoughts go along with depression, and your views are one of the hardest parts of being depressed.

When you are wallowing in the pain of heartbreak, physical and emotional distress, you often focus on the rotten aspects of something or maybe even everything.


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