I know for a fact, from my own experience, that feeling good about yourself and learning to become more confident and attractive makes your life better
Ever since we were little we learned that there are certain ideals of beauty, and we grew up thinking that if we didn’t fit in them, we wouldn’t be attractive. That’s one of the main reasons why so many of us are insecure about the way we look. But, actually, beauty and attractiveness don’t just come down to looks.
From what I’ve learned, it has a lot more to do with how you project yourself. When you project self-love, confidence, and happiness, you become more magnetic. And it’s not just me who says it, there is actual scientific research that backs it up.
But, how do you become confident and attractive when you have always felt like you don’t fit into a certain standard of beauty?
How do you start loving yourself unconditionally if there are some things that you wish you could change? Building your self-esteem up is a process, you don’t wake up one day feeling good about everything about yourself.
However, there are certain things you can do in your daily life to start becoming more confident, and, as a result, becoming more attractive. I would like to share 5 tips I have learned over time that can help you achieve this.
Eliminating Negative Self-Talk Will Make You More Confident And Attractive
We are constantly bringing ourselves down with what we say to ourselves within our minds. This negative self-talk, even if most of the time we aren’t aware of how hard we are to ourselves, isn’t healthy for your self-esteem.
Start paying attention to what you say to yourself, and think about how you would feel if someone next to you said: “I’m so ugly/stupid/fat/etc”. You’d probably find it very harsh, and far from reality. Because it is.
So start working on replacing that negative self-talk with positive thoughts about yourself. Even if you don’t really feel like a drop-dead gorgeous supermodel, tell yourself you are one, and soon enough you’ll start believing it.
Staying Active Makes Your More Confident And Attractive
Exercise can have an enormous effect on making yourself feel more confident and attractive, and I’m not talking about just the effect it has on your physical appearance. Working out releases endorphins, which are substances that produce feelings of happiness and pleasure, and these feelings last long after you’re done exercising.
Also, practicing a sport or going to the gym are great ways to have some time to yourself and clear your mind for a while. In addition, a 2014 study found that Americans who exercise more have a better perception of their physical appearance and are more confident in general.
You Will Become Confident And Attractive When You Have Good Posture
Being on our phones all day long and working long hours on a computer usually results in developing a bad posture. This isn’t only bad for your health since it can cause pain in several parts of your body, but it can also affect how people see you and how you see yourself.
According to the American Posture Institute, slouching communicates lack of self-confidence and can make you feel small while standing straight can make you feel big and powerful. Also, having a good posture can have a direct effect on your mood.
So if you find yourself slouching, try to correct yourself by rolling your shoulders back and imagine pulling a string from the top of your head that makes you elongate your spine and raise your chin so that it is in a forward-facing, neutral position.
Smile More And Your Confidence Will Soar
Smiling can be a more powerful tool than you imagine. It’s clear that smiling can make you seem warm and invite to other people, but the benefits you can get from smiling go way beyond that. Turns out that smiling can trick your brain into thinking you’re happy, even when you’re not feeling particularly cheerful.
Research shows that smiling produces a chemical reaction in our brains, releasing hormones that increase our feelings of happiness and reduce our feelings of stress. According to studies, facial expressions are not just a result of an emotion but they can have a direct effect on that emotion. So, knowing that smiling can make you feel happier and frowning can make you feel sadder, you can trick your brain into a good mood just by smiling more and frowning less.
Take Care of Yourself And Boost Your Attractiveness
Self-care is one of the most important steps in building up your self-esteem and start loving yourself. Recognize that you are your number one priority and that you deserve the best, and start acting accordingly. This includes eliminating habits that are bad for your health that you might not even be aware are dangerous, such as binge drinking -which can result in alcoholism-, eating too much processed-food, being sedentary, indulging in laziness, etc.
Eat a healthy diet based on vegetables, fruits, and lean meats; exercise regularly, wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and beautiful, engage in activities you enjoy, pamper yourself every now and then… Taking care of yourself means you are in control of yourself, and doing things that make you feel and look good can be empowering and help you increase your self-esteem.
As I mentioned above, becoming confident is a process, and even when you develop a high self-esteem and learn to love yourself, it’s normal to feel bad about something about yourself sometimes. We all have our insecurities and that’s okay, the important thing is that you work every day in recognizing your self-worth, regardless of any imperfections or mistakes you might think you have.
I believe that confidence is the best attribute a person can have. Think about the people you have been attracted to, at first sight, think of someone you find has a certain magnetism with people, and you will find that what they all have in common is they project confidence. You can achieve that too by implementing these simple tips in your daily life.
I hope this article was helpful! If you have any questions about being confident and attractive, please leave a comment below.
Hi, my name is Andy! I was born in Bogota, Colombia, but raised in Los Angeles, California. I spend my time helping others with their recovery and growing my online business.